I am happy to report that after two sessions of counseling, my husband and I are cured. Just kidding. But things are much much much better. I think my perception gets out of whack when I am angry. I see everything through angry colored glasses. I am a lot less angry these days. Which is good.
I have always known that my husband and I are polar opposites of each other in many of our personality traits. Being the worrier that I am, (my husband doesn't know what worry is), it has been a concern and a frustration of mine. The things that I once loved and adored in my husband are the things that are slowly driving me insane these days. We are trying to appreciate each other for our differences. I am trying to look at his ability to put off projects that are important to me, as 'spontaneity' and 'laid back-ness' and he is trying to look at my ability to perseverate and stress on things as an 'organizational strength'. I have really tried to dig deep and come up with some concrete answers on why Denmark is such a sore subject with me and he has actually admitted to not taking my wants and needs seriously as of late. So we are definitely moving in the right direction. We are working on our communication skills, which I didn't realize were as awful as they were, now that we are actually communicating.
We are making a promise to spend more quality time together. On Monday night after our 'session' we went out for coffee instead of going right home. On Tuesday night we actually watched a show together, the first time in I don't know how long. We watched 'Autism:The Musical" which I will have to devote a whole other post to, it was that good.
My husband emailed me this article about couples who argue, and how it's actually healthy for you to argue with your spouse. We have been pretty healthy lately.